It’s true that many marriages end in divorce, but it’s pretty crucial that you at least start out believing that it really is until death us do part. If you aren’t sure you’re making the right decision it could be a simple case of cold feet, or there could be deeper problems. Read through our list of potential deal breakers and see if any alarm bells start to ring.
You think marriage will solve your relationship problems
If you’re getting hitched because you think it will sort out all your difficulties, you need to have a serious rethink. Any problems that exist between you and your partner will still remain after the excitement of the big day has worn off and will only be exacerbated by the fact that you’ve committed yourselves for life. Tackle your problems before saying ‘I do’.
You aren’t friends
The first flush of romance is incredibly exciting and it’s easy to promise the world to someone when under the influence of that initial chemistry. If you rush into marriage at an early stage, you might find that once the honeymoon period is over, you aren’t compatible in the long term. If you don’t feel your lover is also your friend, you might not last the distance.
Your life priorities are completely different
If you want to travel the world in a camper van and rarely think past next week, but your partner wants to settle down with a mortgage and 2.4 kids, you’re going to struggle to find a happy future together. Compromise is vital to a relationship, but you shouldn’t be compromising so much that you end up unhappy.
You think marriage will make you feel secure
If you feel insecure in your relationship and are using marriage as a way to stop your partner leaving you, then you need to have a long hard look at yourself. Marriage should be a celebration of your love rather than a method of control, so address your insecurities before asking someone to make the commitment.
Your family and friends don’t like your partner
We don’t always see eye to eye with our friends and family about our choice of partner, but if there’s a general consensus amongst them that this person is really wrong for you, take a moment to stop and think. Your friends and family know you well, and care about your happiness, so they may be seeing something that your head-over-heels feelings have blinded you to. They may be wrong, but it’s worth listening to their opinions all the same.